HIM: So, what are your views on sex?
ME: Oh, well, since I'm Christian, I believe that premarital sex is wrong.
HIM: So, you're a virgin?
ME: Uhhhh....yeah. I am.
HIM: But, you're like 19 years old. And in college.
ME: And?
HIM: You shouldn't be a virgin at 19. That's unheard of in these times. Even I'm not a virgin and I'm still a Christian.
ME: Okay...well, I'm a virgin. Deal with it.
Really? REALLY? So, apparently, we live in a society where it's unheard of to be a virgin in college. Why is that? Why do I have to have sex in order to be accepted by others?
Obviously, that conversation died after that and I just told him that I wanted to be friends only and what not. It's not that I wouldn't date him because he wasn't a virgin. It was the fact that he believed that sex before marriage is okay while I don't believe that.
But, let's take some time to talk about this. About sex and Christianity.
Let me start by saying that sex is good. (Yes. I just said that.) Sex is good. God created it to be good. He created it for husband and wife to express their love for one another.
Genesis 1: 27-28 – “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. God blessed them and said to them, "Be fruitful and increase in number;” (NIV)
Genesis 2:24 – “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” (NIV)
Proverbs 5:18-19 – “May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer — may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love.” (NIV)
Song of Songs 7:6 – “How beautiful you are and how pleasing, O love, with your delights!” (NIV)
1 Corinthians 6:13 – “The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.” (NIV)
With that said, the Bible/God also says that while sex is good, premarital sex is not good. Society focuses a lot of things on and around sex. Sex is in just about every magazine, newspaper, television show, and movie. It is the point of a lot of music. Our world has gotten lax about sex, making it seem like premarital sex is okay because it feels good, but the Bible does not agree. God calls us all to control our passions and wait for marriage.
1 Corinthians 7:2-3 – “But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.” (NIV)
Hebrews 13:4 – “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” (NIV)
1 Thessalonians 4:3-4 – “It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable” (NIV)
I will be glad to admit that staying pure is difficult in a world such as ours. Propositions can be made and when in college, it can be much easier to find that one night stand or to find someone to have sex with. I have not yet been tempted to have sex while in college. I know it is a possibility, and I will deal with it when it gets to that point. However, at this point in time, I'm not worried about it.
I'm a single girl in college. I don't have any love interests or anybody I'm "talking" to at the moment. At this point, it is easy to remain pure. When I have a boyfriend, it'll get harder, I'm sure. But I'm happy at this moment in my life.
Temptation is hard. I know. But we have to trust the God has a better plan for us and that He is right and good all the time. So, if you find yourself tempted, turn to Him. Trust Him. Lean on Him. Send your worries and burdens to Him. He will take them from you gladly.
He is good all the time. All the time, He is good.
Have faith.
In His love.
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